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Il existe deux incontournables de la nature qui sont de notre part l\u2019objet de tabou ou de refus. Ce sont la sexualit\u00e9 et la diff\u00e9rence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La sexualit\u00e9, moteur de la reproduction est l\u2019une des conditions \u00ab sine qua none \u00bb de la survie de toute esp\u00e8ce. Elle fait pourtant, dans nos civilisation,  l\u2019objet d\u2019un tabou absolu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La diff\u00e9rence est le moteur de la vie car elle est le moteur du mouvement, de l\u2019\u00e9volution, de toute transformation. Le courant \u00e9lectrique circule par une diff\u00e9rence de potentiel, un corps flotte gr\u00e2ce \u00e0 une diff\u00e9rence de densit\u00e9, les \u00e9changes commerciaux sont le fait d\u2019une diff\u00e9rence d\u2019int\u00e9r\u00eat pour un objet, un objet se d\u00e9place par diff\u00e9rence d\u2019\u00e9nergie potentielle,  nous nous situons, nous positionnons par rapport (donc par diff\u00e9rence) aux diverses exp\u00e9riences de la vie \u2026 ce qui construit notre identit\u00e9. Un monde sans diff\u00e9rence serait un monde mort, immobile, sans vie. Pourtant la diff\u00e9rence fait peur et nous, tout comme la sexualit\u00e9,  la craignons autant qu\u2019elle nous est indispensable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La diff\u00e9rence \u00ab motive \u00bb mais fait peur, la similitude nous \u00ab passive \u00bb mais nous s\u00e9curise. La diff\u00e9rence fait de nous un \u00eatre de plus en plus adulte et autonome alors que la similitude, au contraire, est r\u00e9gressive et nous confine dans notre statut de d\u00e9pendance enfantine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Il est bien connu que nous sommes infiniment plus r\u00e9ceptifs  \u00e0 ce qui nous heurte, nous d\u00e9range qu\u2019\u00e0 ce qui nous arrange et nous s\u00e9curise. Nous percevons bien plus chez  notre conjoint ce qui nous choque (ses d\u00e9fauts) que ce qui nous gratifie (ses qualit\u00e9s). Le \u00ab bon \u00bb para\u00eet normal alors que le \u00ab mauvais \u00bb nous alerte, nous bouscule. En ce sens la diff\u00e9rence nous fait bouger et la similitude nous endors. On retrouve le paradoxe de toute vie humaine : grandir en prenant des risques, ou v\u00e9g\u00e9ter en restant \u00e0 l\u2019abri !<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u2019acceptabilit\u00e9 de la diff\u00e9rence est directement li\u00e9e \u00e0 notre capacit\u00e9 d\u2019adaptation et notre aptitude \u00e0 la tol\u00e9rance<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Chez un individu \u00e0 conscience \u00ab\u00a0laxe\u00a0\u00bb, de nature pusillanime, manquant de rep\u00e8res, les possibilit\u00e9s d\u2019adaptations sont si \u00ab\u00a0ouverte\u00a0\u00bb la tol\u00e9rance est si forte qu\u2019il a tendance \u00e0 \u00e9pouser, accepter tout ce qu\u2019on lui propose. Il s\u2019adapte si bien qu\u2019il en perd une partie de son\u00a0 identit\u00e9<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. \u00a0Au contraire chez un individu \u00e0 conscience \u00ab\u00a0rigide\u00a0\u00bb, psychorigide, la capacit\u00e9 d\u2019adaptation est tr\u00e8s faible et la tol\u00e9rance quasi nulle. Il repoussera cat\u00e9goriquement toute id\u00e9e diff\u00e9rente de ce qu\u2019il con\u00e7oit. Il est r\u00e9fractaire \u00e0 tout changement car incapable de se remettre en cause. En g\u00e9n\u00e9ral narcissique il pourra virer \u00e0 la parano\u00efa s\u2019il se sent bless\u00e9.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. En g\u00e9n\u00e9ral les individus ont une certaine capacit\u00e9 d\u2019adaptation. Selon qu\u2019elle est plus ou moins grande il aura plus ou moins de capacit\u00e9 \u00e0 accepter la diff\u00e9rence et sera donc plus ou moins tol\u00e9rant.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Conclusion<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    La diff\u00e9rence est le moteur de la vie ; Qu\u2019il s\u2019agisse de la diff\u00e9rence des sexes qui assure la reproduction, ou toute diff\u00e9rence d\u2019autre nature. Nous d\u00e9finissons les \u00e9l\u00e9ments de la vie de fa\u00e7on relative, les uns par rapport aux autre et jamais dans un absolu. Cette comparaison par contraste constitue la formation m\u00eame de notre identit\u00e9, sans elle tout les \u00eatre seraient semblable et la vie impossible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Forger cette identit\u00e9 c\u2019est devenir adulte et passer d\u2019un \u00e9tat de d\u00e9pendance fusionnelle \u00e0 une autonomie.  Il est difficile de renoncer \u00e0 la s\u00e9curit\u00e9 de la d\u00e9pendance pour aller vers l\u2019autonomie et le risque.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Pour faire un homme mon dieu que c\u2019est long .. et difficile<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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